I’m anti-twat, not anti-feminism.

So after flicking through my tumblr blog day in, day out, I find very interesting pictures/text of very controversial views.

I’d like to start this article by saying that anything I do say, I mean. And that I’m not anti-feminism, I’m just against whoring issues and being extremely over the top about something that is constantly changing. I’m also not into suicide shaming, but people commit suicide for pathetic reasons which I find disgusting. I also detest the whole ‘I’m sad and lonely so I slit my wrists’ thing, I used to do it myself and I look back and think, “God, that did nothing to help”. Rape is vile, but it can be prevented, it IS the rapists fault, but there are things you can do to prevent yourself from being a target. So I just thought I’d let you all know that first. I’m also gonna say that I’m not JUST blaming tumblr here, but they are a main culprit.

So I found a competition thing for DC comics regarding Harley Quinn (<3) committing suicide and they wanted 3 drawings of her failed attempts, one of these had to include her being naked in a bath. I read this and just thought, its fake. But alas, it was not.

This apparently stirred uproar from fans because apparently, September is national suicide awareness month or some shit. I actually think that DC were giving an awesome opportunity to a budding artist, I don’t see it as an insult. If you look into Harley’s character, which I’m sure the twats on tumblr don’t, you’ll see that she is bat shit crazy. She’s obsessed with Joker and when he constantly makes her life a misery and doesn’t requite her love for him, she tries to kill herself. Simple. It’s a way to kill off a character and people need to see that that’s all it is. They’re not doing it to spite anybody. I can imagine Harley dropping a toaster into a bathtub to try and top herself. But I’m sure it wouldn’t work as its a comic book story. People need to get off their high horses, saying shit like ‘Stop glamorizing suicide with nakedness’ and ‘Suicide is not okay’. Because people are STILL going to read the comics and buy the merchandise! People don’t care, they’re being ridiculous and trying to seem bigger than they are. ( In regards to Harley and Joker, watch the Injustice: Gods Among Us, Harley ending as you’ll get a real shock)

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Suicide happens because people get sad about their lives. It happens. But committing suicide just because you’re sad is a silly reason. I contemplated it when my parents divorced back in 2008, but I thought of my siblings and how much it would tear them apart. Bullying is not a reason for suicide, I’m sorry, but it isn’t. If you’re being bullied so badly about anything, just tell someone. Delete Facebook for a while, delete tumblr, get a new email, get a new phone number, delete everything that has to do with those bullying you. I was bullied awfully at primary school for my ginger locks, I had no friends, nothing. But I spoke to people about it, and now, later on, I laugh at myself in regards to being ginger. Joking about not having a soul and all that is fun! I still flinch when someone says ginger, be that in a normal conversation or an insult, but its never anything serious. Bullies get bored, and if you stop caring or pretend to, they move on. If they don’t, get them done for harassment. Nothing should resort to suicide really, although I can understand when you’ve lost everything and everyone you care for. Like the dude in that Kinks song, Sunny Afternoon. (Good song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2EHXH0hYkuU )

In regards to all these scar posts of your slit wrists. I have just given up trying to see sense in what you’re doing that for. I used to do it, cutting myself with a pair of scissors every night because I was so depressed with my parents divorce and my own self-loathing. But I never found that it helped me, the release of blood over my skin never soothed me, or brought my mum back to live with me. It made things worse as I had to wear plasters to school and hide things from my friends and family. My sister took up the razor blade a few years back and she has been left with the most horrendous scars on her wrists from it, and even she says the same. That it never helped her. The scars aren’t memories, they’re scars. Ugly, horrible scars. Luckily, I was never deep enough to make long setting ones, but I would be ashamed to show my arm with big pink fleshy scars at my wedding, my graduation and to my children. But people don’t think. I didn’t think.

I have found that tumblr is just a way for children to get attention for their mistakes and make them feel good about themselves. Its almost encouragement. People saying, ‘you’re beautiful’ to a picture of their bodies with the scars on show? You might as well tell them to keep making themselves beautiful by continuing to do it. Talk to people with scars, find out why the do it. And just sit there and talk until they cry or they actually give you a full blown speech about it. Then solve the problem, or at least try. The problem is, people do not practice what they preach on the internet. They say all these things like ‘Stop cutting because you’re amazing’, but if they were dealing with someone close who did it, they would know that they’re saying the wrong thing.

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Body image is a huuuge thing on tumblr. People post pictures on their hideous bodies, be them fat, skinny, average, big boobed, small boobed, huge hips, small waist, whatever. This is just for tumblr users to say ‘You look beautiful no matter what you look like!’ Its funny though because I check out their profiles and they seem to only go out with good looking, skinny people. Interesting how hypocritical people are right? I’m a bigger lady myself, well I think I am anyway, I have a huge ass, a small waist and big boobs. But I generally have a lot of spare flesh around the belly, thigh and arm area. I was skinny all my life til I got to 17 and started eating junk. I’m now a proud size 16, who is around 14 stone and is trying to lose the weight at my own pace. I don’t need some twat behind a keyboard telling me I look good? I know I don’t. The only people I want to hear that from are people in the real world, like my boyfriend, friends and family. To be honest, when I find someone who has a wonderful personality, I love them more than their face. A perfect example of this is my love for Deadpool, as he is horrendously disfigured under his mask, but has the most amazing, funny personality. This is how I fell for him.

I can feel you judging me for that, stop it. I know he’s not real. And no, I’m not crying hysterically over how he is not real. Carry on reading and leave me with my tears.

Before you read this part, I don’t hate women. I am actually a woman myself, if you haven’t noticed, so I can’t really hate them. I do tend to have more male friends though because I generally detest female company.

Since my first DAYS on tumblr 3 years ago, I have seen pictures containing messages about rape and feminism. But you know what? I don’t go on tumblr to be made sad or sickened. I go on tumblr to look at funny gifsets and pictures of unicorns eating rainbows. I don’t wanna be swept into the midst of OTT feminism at its finest. I read articles every day in favour of women and in regards to women being raped etc. But where are all the stories about the men who suffer marital rape, or homosexual rape? How about the men who suffer from domestic abuse by their wives? Sorry, but I don’t see much of this in the media at all. Its all about the ladies when it comes to being innocent and easy to hurt and torture, when more than 40% of the domestic violence crime is performed on men. There’s not enough awareness of men being a victim of these crimes, and then women get all pissy in regards to, ‘She asked for it’ or ‘you were wearing no clothes’. If you go out in the dark, alone in nothing but a bra and a miniskirt, you’re setting yourself up for something love. I’m not blaming any rape victims for whats happened to them, because it IS the rapists fault, because rape shouldn’t happen, but if there is something else in the scenario, such as you being out at 1 in the morning on your own, then I do put some blame on you and whoever let you out.

And all this ‘I need feminism because..’ bullshit is ridiculous. If someone implies that you’re weak and feeble, show them how you’re not and break the stereotype. If they think you belong in the kitchen, put them in the building site without a hard hat and see how they like living up to theirs. THAT’S THE WAY YOU GET THINGS DONE. Women live up to their own ‘awful’ stereotype because they bitch and complain about it, make stupid picket signs and do NOTHING about it in their real lives. I have some examples of said picket signs that I found hilarious.

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Overwhelming burden of housework alone huh? Well, find yourself a bloke that will actually help you, that’s what relationships are about right? Helping each other? Women are subjected to doing housework and looking after children because its what we’re good at! We’re good at feeding children and tolerating children. God forbid I would let my future husband look after my future children by himself, they’re just not great at it. My dad’s a single parent, but he has major flaws in his parenting such as his temper and his intolerance to mess and misbehavior, but its just the way dudes are! ‘Get back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich’, okay, I’ll do that, but I’ll let you know that your sandwich will be in your suitcase with all your possessions in the hallway, bye bye. Don’t give in, don’t complain, just get over it and say no. Simples.

(I am personally a great fan of cooking and cleaning, so I don’t really understand why people get so caught up on ‘get back in the kitchen’ when I can just take my laptop and make some cakes that you can’t have.)

I guess another issue is homosexuality, but I just think that’s awesome. It’s good to know that the governments opinion can be changed over time and that you’re now accepted into society. So you guys just carry on and I’ll come join the party in a second.

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I know that if people read this, they’ll be a lot of hate. But this is my opinion, you can have your own. Please comment and tell me yours, or insult mine. Its no skin off my back because its not gonna change. Thank you for reading, nonetheless though.

(P.S : You can comment about this article. I don’t expect comments about my grammar and such because I really don’t give a toss about it. I’m not a writer, I do this as a hobby and fuck you if all your hobbies are done perfectly. You ponce!)

Well I’m done for today, I’ve just got too much to do before I go charity shop hunting with my grandparents for uni stuff. So I’ll catch you later. Ciao and thanks again.

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20 thoughts on “I’m anti-twat, not anti-feminism.

  1. Lauren :) (don't hate me, i'm starting a friendly debate :p) says:

    I think shifting part blame on to rape victims is awful. No, its not your fault if you wear a mini skirt and get raped. My body, I can wear what I want. So what if a woman dresses provactively? Yeah, maybe she is hoping to get some. That in no way means that someone she doesnt want to sleep with can force it on her. That’s like saying because a bank teller counts money in front of you, you’re entitled to some. You can’t just take people’s possessions, so you can’t claim their bodies either. And as for being out at 1am? What about going to parties? Socialising? Men aren’t mindless drones. They don’t HAVE to rape a woman because she’s wearing a low cut top. Opinions like this promote guilt amongst victims.

    • Well I’m not blaming them at all. I’m just saying that there are so many precautions you can take, like not being out alone in the middle of the night etc. But maybe she should think of these precautions before she goes out :/

  2. Eleanor says:

    Rarely have I been so appalled by the inconsistent, contradictory and utterly pathetic views (read: ramblings). This is offensive, it is poor, and it is narrow-sighted. Voicing such heinous and volatile opinions for the sake of views and comments is disgusting and you should stop. Taking a view because it’s controversial doesn’t make your voice interesting, it makes it insulting. I need feminism because of people like you.

    • Sorry, but I’ve made some damn good points within my argument. I’m not trying to piss anyone off, I’m just stating fact. I really couldn’t care less if you read my blog or if anyone does for that matter! I have a ‘controversial view’ because I do, that’s how I feel. Why don’t you make a picket sign and stand outside buildings in no clothes to protest your ‘feminism’? Preaching to me online, behind a keyboard is just useless, and for me, hilarious. I enjoy reading comments such as yours because they are so pointless.

  3. Rose says:

    This disgusts me. Please do not write about rape and depression when you so clearly do not understand. I think you need to grow up a bit, and maybe you’ll see the world is less black and white terms.

    • I really really do. You don’t know me. As I’ve said in the past that this is my opinion. You don’t have to like it.

      Soooooo I don’t care :)

      • Rose says:

        When you’re a bit older, you’re going to be really embarrassed by some of the opinions you’ve expressed here. Do some more reading on depression/rape/everything else you’ve mentioned here in your blog. It might help you understand. Also be careful, future employers will google you, and they will not like what they see here.

      • -Looks around-

        Allll the fucks I give are nowhere to be seen.

  4. Em says:

    By saying that rape victims could’ve prevented it, is essentially giving them some blame and that is completely disgusting to do so. No man or woman deserves to be raped just because they were out too late or showing too much skin. You can’t generalise with any rape case because the circumstances are different every time. Half the time it’s from people they know and trust. So.. your blog is ridiculously naive and narrow-minded. How dare you say that women are only good for household work! Have we not left the 20th century? What on earth have you been taught in school! And finally you clearly have absolutely no clue about depression. If you think that it could just be switched on or off, you are wrong.

    Considering your blog name ‘Crimsonartisan’, you have not crafted any interesting or exciting ideas. You have just offended alot of people over issues you haven’t even bothered researching. Don’t choose to be controversial just because it’s controversy. You sound like you’re wanting a lot of attention.. I don’t mean to be aggressive or horrible in this comment, it’s a reaction to your insensitive blog.

    • I don’t have to research this very much at all anyway, its a personal opinion blog. The hilarious thing is that if you don’t like it, click the x. I don’t understand why you people feel like you have to comment and tell me I’m wrong. I have an opinion, I’m voicing it. If you don’t like it then fuck off.

      I also said that women aren’t JUST good at housework, I said that we are. Doesn’t mean that I’m saying all women should be cleaners or housewives deary.

      Funny, because you really don’t know me. I’ve actually suffered from paranoid psychosis since I was 12, and in turn, makes me depressed. I’ve been diagnosed and I don’t need nasty comments on how I don’t know. Yeah, I haven’t been raped, but I have suffered from depression. Perhaps you should do some thinking of others perspective before you comment huh?

      Honestly, I really don’t care what you think. This is a PERSONAL OPINION BLOG. You can leave at any time if you don’t like what you’re reading. I accept your opinion on the matter, but insulting mine and my own intelligence really gets my goat.

      So please, go tell someone who cares. :)

      • Rose says:

        We’re commenting to voice our own ‘personal opinions’. It’s not a one way street. You’ve posted this on the internet. Of course people are going to comment.

        I’m sorry that you’ve suffered from paranoid psychosis and depression. But it doesn’t mean everyone experiences it the same way you do. People don’t commit suicide for pathetic reasons, even if you see it as such. They do it because in their minds it is the only answer; it’s a disease, and they can’t control what they feel. Not everyone can flick a switch and suddenly think ‘Oh I can’t commit suicide – I don’t want my family to be upset’. For most suicidal people they believe that the world and their families would be better off without them. I’m not writing this to annoy you or tell you you’re wrong, I’m hoping this will open up your mind a little and make you think a little bit more widely on the matter.

        The same goes with bullying – not everyone is strong enough within themselves to just delete facebook etc. and ignore the bullies. Even those with strong supportive family networks cannot realise that the future will be different and they will not always be in that situation. I’m glad for you that you have overcome your self-harming demons, but for other people it is not so black and white. It is easier than you would think to fall into that trap, and for myself in the past I found it a way to ignore the pain of depression with the physical and less harsh pain of cutting. Now I’m in a much better place and of course I would not advise it, but you can’t imply it’s just thoughtless and stupid, when for most people who do it it is the only choice they can see. It’s logical in their minds. Which of course is awful, but it’s not their faults, and not the choice they would make in a happier state of mind.

        And I don’t think you quite understand what the feminism posts meant.

        “Women are subjected to doing housework and looking after children because its what we’re good at!”

        That is a sexist point of view. It’s been in bred into our culture than men work and women do the housework – not because our small hands make it easier to pull the pasta out the sink and bleach the toilets.

        I know this is repetitive, but the world is not so black and white as you believe. I know this is your ‘personal opinion blog’, but maybe you should read more into how other people have experienced their problems. I’m glad you seem happy at university now, but some people don’t have the same control over their problems to be able to thrive as happily. I’m trying to explain to you how other people feel, I hope you don’t take this as a lecture or me trying to shove my opinion down your throat, but when you do post a personal opinion blog like this for the whole world to see, you are going to receive a lot of negative replies.

      • I’m aware of this, it was not my intention to offend. I very much appreciate your opinion, and I’m sorry for my brash comments earlier. I’ve had a awful few days and I was a little defensive. Thank you for the university comment, I do appreciate it. I think perhaps, I stand by my opinions though.

  5. Em says:

    You must be joking! Of course, you have to research what you’re talking about! You can’t have an opinion about something you don’t understand, because it means your opinion (or offensive statements of depression, self harm etc.) is literally pulled out of thin air. So why the hell would you want to voice an opinion that has no substantial evidence or reason behind it?

    No, I don’t know you. And I’m sorry for anyone who has to deal with any illness including paranoid psychosis. But you don’t know anyone else’s reasons for depression or suicide etc. so stop generalising! “Bullying is not a reason for suicide, I’m sorry, but it isn’t. If you’re being bullied so badly about anything, just tell someone” – you are putting people down. The fact you have been through bullying, parents splitting up and so on, you should know that pretending that this wouldn’t have mentally or emotionally scarred you in some way is just naive. You’ve been hurt before so stop hurting others!

    Please learn about feminism.

    Yes, you are writing a personal blog.. on the internet.. for everyone in the world to see and therefore you should be expecting criticism and comments like this. I’m not being nasty, I’m telling you to back yourself up with reasons as to why you have these opinions. But my god, I hope they change.

    I was shown this blog by a friend, who was shown by a friend, who was shown by a friend and so forth. This was due to how much we despise most of what you’ve written. But hey, this is my opinion, if you don’t like it, don’t have a blog?

    • I really don’t care though. I’m allowed to do as I please, I look back on my experiences and think. My intention was not to offend, I’m just writing because I can.

      I don’t mind that you’re seeing this, or that anyone else is. I stand by my points, and I respect yours. Now, lets leave it as this mainly because I have nothing else to say.

  6. Josie says:

    I’m left feeling completely disgusted reading this blog, yes I know it’s a personal blog and you want to write, but what about a diary? So only YOU can read it, rather than putting it out on the internet to let people know how naïve and ridiculous your uneducated opinions are, you WILL get people commenting such as myself to just ask the reason why? Why are you so opinionated on depression? As you should know yourself that everyone copes with depression differently and one day is different to the next, and you have differently levels of depression.
    Also I really got wound up by your opinion on the rape and that you can prevent it.
    So 2/3 of people know their attacker… so are you saying every time they see this person they are always walking around in a bra and miniskirt? I don’t think so! I think you forget that they can also be relatives, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends etc! Being in a relationship does NOT give your boyfriend the right to your body.
    Yes a third of rape victims do not know their attacker but I think if you read the news now and then on these cases about half of THOSE third of people were not on a night out and just casually walking in the day time.
    I think once you have had some life experience of growing up, and changing as a human being your opinions will hopefully change. I feel embarrassed for you, people make silly decisions and regret things in their life, I have a feeling when you are about 5 years older you will cringe in the memory of this particular blog.

    • I wrote a diary, it was boring. I prefer people reading my things to create a friendly debate/discussion. You people are writing to me anonymously when you don’t know me? Its very interesting how much life experience I have for a person my age.

      I didn’t do much reading on rape because I didn’t feel I had to, before I posted this, no one read my blog. I don’t really regret much in my life, I don’t think I will regret this. I’ll probably forget it eventually. This is a hobby, I write my opinions up. If you don’t like them, then stop reading.

      I really have nothing else to say, I stand by my opinion.

      • Josie says:

        No I don’t know you, but posting things on the internet of such matter of fact opinions are going to create a ‘oh hey man read this post how ridiculous is this’ ‘this makes me sick reading this have a look’ type of storm. I would gladly give my name and meet with you in real life and have this discussion but I some how believe you wouldn’t be up for doing so.

        You keep saying ‘if you don’t like them, then stop reading’ No I don’t like them, and I do think you’re completely wrong, but I also think you’re young so don’t understand and I don’t blame you for that, I am trying to teach you some thing here of keep your opinions to yourself, I remember when I was younger and didn’t know much about the world how silly my opinions were. You will come to realise this.

        But back to my original point ‘stop reading’ you then post a thing of ‘keep the stats coming’ this is another way of showing people how young you are, you DO want people to read otherwise you would not put this on the internet, but I don’t think you are getting the attention for the right reasons. I don’t want this to hurt you and your future, I would think wisely of deleting the blog. If a future job saw this blog, they would not hire you. Facts of life, be careful what you post.

      • But I encourage people to read, give their opinions, but not actually insult me funnily enough. I’m not hunting for attention, no one was reading my blog.

        I personally would love to meet up with anyone with an opinion against this, but there is literally no point, because I’m not gonna change my opinion.

        If someone at work asked me my opinion on this topic, I would tell them this. This is what I feel in my brain is the right way and what I believe.

        Honestly, I’m kind of bored of this topic now. I’ve been replying to people all morning. My opinion remains the same, you won’t convince me otherwise. I stand by my opinion, but I respect yours. Lets leave it at that.

  7. Salad says:

    Stop for a minute dear; and think.

    I’m not going to insult you, or belittle you; or even disagree. But consider.

    Your blog is attracting a lot of negative attention. You are clearly pissing people off. People are unanimously disagreeing your your “opinions” on the things you’re talking about. This you cannot dispute.

    On a blog, negative attention is not good attention. This isn’t Miley cyrus at the VMAs; you stand to make no ad-sales and no record sales by being the subject of popular hatred. In fact eventually – if your traffic is so negative so often – it’s likely that wordpress will just cease the livelihood of the blog entirely.

    Your opinion is a powerful tool to offend. Don’t underestimate this. If one went parading around the streets with a Swastika on their arm; screaming hatred about blacks, jews and muslims – I wouldn’t expect them to last the hour. Opinions are free, but only until they hurt or offend. Most opinions are harmless. I hate death metal; i find it agony to listen to. That’s fine. “I hate death metal; anyone who listens to it is a degenerate idiot who needs to die”? That opinion isn’t fine. Or at least, isn’t fine for me to voice. There’s a subtle difference, and unfortunately if you choose to speak your mind about such sensitive topics – these subtle differences become huge. You haven’t lived in a country where females have been truly oppressed. You’ve never been the victim of a rape. I say these things with certainty – because the way you speak about these things makes it so obvious. You cannot hope to speak an opinion on something you have so little knowledge of – and then wonder why people are hating you for it. It’s simple the way the world works. Yes; its your opinion, you are entitled to one. But once it involved others, you are not entitled to that opinion. (at least publically). And as for “There’s no point – I’m not gonna change my opinion on this”, come on lady, don’t be so close-minded! We should all want our opinions changed – because if an argument is compelling enough for you to agree with it – be thankful that someone took the time to change your mind!

    I spoke a while ago about this. Don’t stop blogging – you’ve clearly got some real passion behind your words. But please – for your blogs sake, revamp your style here. As someone above mentioned – Crimsonartisan – I’d expect to see some inspirational speech or some thought-provocation. All we find is hate speech directed to minorities, as though this is your diary and not a public journal.

    I don’t want you to reply to this with an argument like all those above me; i want you to think here. If everyone disagrees with you on something – chances are you are probably wrong. This humble fact is what keeps emotions like Arrogance and Ego away. You don’t want to become so arrogant of your own opinions that you believe you’re immune to criticism do you; as once that happens your blogging days are over. A blog is a public medium for you to speak your words, and the public will criticize. It’s not impossible to do well, trust me!

    Do you draw? I’d love to see some interpretations of the characters you seem to love so much. Perhaps a Video – recording yourself sketching them.

    Do you sing? Again I’d love to hear what you can come up with.

    Do you bake? I’d love to read some recipes!

    Do you skate? Dance? Study in a strange/interesting way? ALL of these things make great posts on a great blog that would truly be worthy of the title CrimsonArtisan. Keep blogging to be about the things you love, not the things you hate!

    Come on now. You don’t have to be the subject of so much criticism. You don’t have to endure the feeling of having facebook friends bitch about you to your cybernetic face. Inspire them. Impress them! Don’t make them hate you for your opinions, make them love you for your ideas.

    Just some food for thought.

    -Salad

    • Indeed. I appreciate your concern. My only other interests are video games and movies. I used to rollerskate, but I have no skates here. I also like baking, but I steal recipes from BBC food.

      I generally wrote this in the summer when I had nothing to do. My most recent blog article was on Bath and my university life so far.

      I only write such topics when I am frustrated with them. I assure you that this is a one off article.

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